- What Not To Say After A Compliment
I’d say “Thank you, but…” Then I’d issue an apology for a three-second lapse in concentration during the sermon, or for an inability to remember every word of a verse I employed as a cross-reference, or for one ambiguous question I posed in an interactive setting. I resorted to self-recrimination over the slightest imperfection in my presentation, even when the remainder of the sermon or class was effective and massaged the hearts of learners.
I put the spotlight on myself, shifting it away from the person who was talking to me. I could have explained the doctrines of redemption and justification in detail, but my perfectionism and self-absorption while receiving a compliment showed that I failed to grasp the implications of my position in Christ. What I knew cognitively about my identity in Christ had not settled into my affective domain of learning.
2. What To Say After A Compliment
Now I don’t add a “but” to my “Thank you.” Especially when I sense that the compliment is sincere, I strive to put the focus on the person expressing appreciation, and on the God whose Word had penetrated his or her mind and heart. Here are typical replies:
*I’m glad you were open to what God’s Spirit had for you today.”
*I appreciate your attentiveness to God’s Word. I sense that you have a teachable spirit.”
*I’m overjoyed that God spoke personally to you today. Thanks for letting me know.”
If I am aware of a minor gaffe in my presentation, I don’t mention it. (How would you feel if you were expressing appreciation to a teacher or preacher, and he kept shifting the focus to areas in which he could have done better?)
When you receive a compliment, remember that the occasion isn’t about you. It’s about the God whose Word has efficacy, and about the person who was open to receiving that Word.